What I've Learnt About Love (so far)

It’s a lie. Love is not a fairy tale like the movies make us believe. In fact, nothing is really as it seems. You see relationships from an outsider’s point of view and it looks glossy and perfect. Movies make it seem so magical and (for the most part) easy. I have learned that is not the case.

 When I was younger, I guess I didn’t really understand what true love was. I thought that when you fell in love, everything was just perfect and everything fell into place. You wouldn’t fight or disagree because you loved each other. I figured when it was right, it didn’t require any work whatsoever. Go ahead and laugh at my naivety.

I realize that I was very caught up on a certain kind of person. It’s okay to have a “type”, but be conscious that the person you end up with, may not necessarily be your type. I'll be completely honest in saying that my boyfriend was not my type when I first met him. I honestly didn't think it would work out because of our differences, but something in my mind told me to stay. I'm glad I did.

I am in a relationship that is going on 4 years. I love him. I think he’s the one, but that is not to say that our relationship is perfect. We bicker. We argue. We fight. But we also love and support each other. We are not perfect. To be completely honest, we recently got through a very rough patch.

Some days I feel head over heels in love with him and some days I don’t even particularly like him that much. But that’s normal. Spending so much time with one person – you’re bound to get a little sick of them a little bit.
Saying that, how do I know he’s the one? Because we made the choice to commit to each other and love each other no matter what. Love is a roller coaster – there are so many ups and downs and it’s hard. Not everything falls into place like I thought it did. That’s just not realistic.

It takes a lot of effort sometimes and a lot of compromise. But the key is that this person makes it all worth it. You wouldn’t want to go through it with anyone else. They make you look back on your previous relationships and make you think, “Woah. So this is what true love is.” Everything you thought you knew is out the window and it’s a whole new experience. It’s kind of like your soul just feels complete and happy.

Love isn't always as clear as night and day. There's a lot of uncertainty and it's terrifying. It's so scary to be so open and vulnerable with someone. Letting them into your mind and life, trusting them and giving them your heart to hold. It's not easy. 







So what's the point of this post really? I guess to say that love probably isn't what you think it is. Don't get too caught up in the gloss and the image of perfection. You could let something really good slip by. Relationships are work. Love is work. It can be hard and it can be easy. It's definitely worth it though. I had this idea of what a perfect relationship was and how love should be and I was completely wrong. I almost lost the best I ever had. I would hate for the same to happen to you.

Fairy tales, movies and books are nice and it's okay to wish for those things, but remember that they're not real.
Love is not just a feeling. It's also the choice we make to stay committed to someone.


I hope everyone finds someone to love and to be loved by because when it's good, it's the absolute best thing in the world.