What I've learned about wedding planning

Before I got engaged, I had a completely different idea of what my wedding would look like. I wanted a formfitting dress, a very casual, do it yourself reception, and I wanted my hair down and flowing. It turns out that isn’t at all what the reality of my wedding is going to be. My dress is a big, puffy ball gown, we’re having a catered, sit down dinner, and since I had to cut a ton of dead hair off last year, my hair is going to be half up and shoulder length.

At first I was panicking because everything wasn’t going according to plan. But then I realized that you have to be flexible with these things sometimes. It’s nice when everything fits your vision, but it doesn’t always work out like that. For example, I thought I would save money by having my reception at a community centre in my hometown. Then I found out that there are actually a ton of licenses and personnel that has to be involved in serving alcohol at your own event. The price skyrocketed, and it didn’t seem worth it anymore. Instead of panicking, with a little help from my grandma, I thought outside the box, and now we’re having a dinner at a wonderful local restaurant, followed by a reception at a local art gallery. It’s not going to be what I imagined, but it’s going to be beautiful and best of all, all the serving and set up and take down is going to be taken care of.

I’ve also learned that it’s ok to ask for help. At first, I was determined to do it all by myself. I was going to make all the bouquets, I was going to bake all the pies for the reception, and I was going to find all the containers for the candy bar. It quickly became very overwhelming, and I was shutting down. I realized that when you’re getting married, there are usually tons of people waiting to help you with anything you ask. It really helps de-stress you during what is supposed to be a very fun and exciting time. Don’t be afraid to look for assistance when needed!

Now that I’ve seen that sometimes due to budget, circumstance, and other things out of your control, what you plan for your wedding may not be what you get, I’ve decided to let go and see what happens, and have the best day of my life no matter what! I can’t wait to marry my best friend, and for all the days after, and that’s what matters.

Are there any other 2019 brides around? What’s your biggest wedding planning tip? Let me know in in the comments below!