Moving in is hard to do

Since my fiancé and I became engaged in December, we’ve spent approximately 25-30 hours together. He works 45 hours a week and is taking a university class, and I work 65 hours a week between my two jobs, so that we can save for our wedding. Texting and phone calls help, but honestly, it’s time for us to move in together, for no other reason (although there are lots of other reasons including convenience and cost effectiveness), than at least to see each other more. As excited as I am, though, this doesn’t come without reservations on both ends. I’ve never lived with a significant other, and he’s never lived with someone who wasn’t his mom, so this is going to be a huge adjustment.

On top of general reservations about space and alone time, there’s also utilities and car insurance and payments, and a lot of other costs that I wasn’t paying before. It’s a huge undertaking, and honestly a lot to consider before you move in with someone. I’ve honestly had cold feet a couple times (never about living with him, just about the huge undertaking that moving in with someone is).

Another contributing factor to the nerves is that this means that I’m officially, really and truly, an adult. Even though I’m almost 28, I’ve lived the past few years suspended somewhere between adolescence and adulthood. I obviously pay bills and buy groceries and go to work every day, but living with many roommates, it’s always a bit of a good time, no matter the time of day. Moving in with my fiancé means that it’s going to be a quieter and more adult environment. Every Sunday isn’t going to be a dinner party, and there isn’t always going to be someone up at midnight, ready to talk and eat ice cream.

But obviously, the pros outweigh my reservations. First, and foremost, I get to live with the love of my life. I get to wake up every morning with him there, and no matter how crazy the day is, he’ll always be there at the end of it. We can make our favourite foods, watch our favourite movies, and be our silly selves together. No late, goofy laugh fest with a roommate can top that, no matter how much I love my roomies, which is a lot.

Also, I get to furnish a whole house. My dishes, my cups, my pots and pans, my paintings and posters, all purchased with my hard earned money. My fiancé doesn’t really care about decorating, so he pretty much oks whatever I want. I’ve even purchased a pink dish set and bathroom accessories, and he didn’t bat an eyelash. It all feels so exciting and new, and I can’t wait to experience it all by his side.

Is anyone going through a big change in their life? Are you scared? Excited? A little bit of both? Let us know in the comments below. Also let us know if you have any tips for making the change to living with a significant other! I'd love to hear about it!

My 5 Year Plan

Lately I've been thinking a lot about my future and how I want it to turn out. This year I'm turning 25 and I'm not gonna lie, it terrifies me. It makes me feel pressured to figure out how my life needs to be and how it needs to turn out. Obviously I can't control the future (although how cool would that be?), but I do have an idea of what I would like to happen.

It's weird to think that when they were this age, most of our parents were married, had kids and had their career ready. These days at this age, we're just starting our adult lives and still have to figure everything out. Thinking about the future is scary because there's so much that's unknown, but it's also exciting to think about all of the possibilities. 

I have no idea how life will turn out even if I have some sort of plan. All I can do is try my best to make sure I get what I want out of life.

Right now my main goal is to start my career. I had a great office job that I liked, however, I lost my job. The building closed and as I wasn't permanent (had to work 5 consecutive years) and since I could not re-locate, I was on my own to find a new job. I really want to find something that I enjoy and I can make a career out of. Who knows that it'll be, but that's my goal for this year.

I live at home (so does my BF) and we would really like to buy a home. We don't want to rent because we figured all of that money could be put to better use. A house is expensive though and saving that much money isn't easy. We're trying though and we're really hoping that withing the next 5 years we will be able to do so.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years (tomorrow!) and have discussed getting married one day. I know that this is something that I cannot control and who knows if and when it'll happen, but I'm hoping that it will. I have to say, that him and I make a pretty good duo.

All of this is kind of a stepping stone for having a family one day. We've discussed it and we would like to have kids one day. I'm personally hoping that that will happen around the time that I'm 30. I can say that, but it really all depends on when we're ready for that to happen. It's a major step for anyone. I know that we're not ready yet- nowhere near. But sometimes when I see a family, I just think that I want that one day. I want to have a family and do family activities.

Over the next 5 years, I really want to get my life together and settle into being an "adult". I want to feel like I finally have my life together. To feel accomplished.

Like I said, I know that this is stuff that I don't have total control over. I'm going to try my best to make it happen - what I can. And hope that the rest will fall into place.
Those are big goals, but all in all, I just want to be happy and healthy. I want to find my place in this world and truly get my life going.
I want to have love, friendship, travel, good health, happiness and memories. And puppies.

 It's pretty easy to get hung up on the future and forget about the now. I need to remember that while I'm working towards my future goals, I need to live in the present because these are the moments that I'll look back on.

I realize that this isn't the normal "5 year plan" like some people have- where everything year is planned out. These are just my dreams.
Do you have a plan for your future? What do you see it looking like?
Let me know in the comments below!

Until next time,